Why you will want to preach more about your struggles.

Why you will want to preach more about your struggles.

Why you shouldn’t be scared of preaching about the things struggles with.

I know you are used to the loud, fun, bold tolu write-ups and so am I. I love laughing and hence good jokes.

I ain’t stopping that dearies.

But lately I haven’t been writing much or keeping up with the blog, which is weird because I love it. Yes… I don’t really have all the time in the world considering…

I am a future Engineer trying to bag that degree and presently going solo on learning how to program PLCs (don’t worry if you do not understand this part…it is engineering blah, blah, blah).

I also work a “8 to 5” job at the moment and I am usually out of the house by 5am i.e. before the cock crows, I engage in various once–in-a-while side businesses, a member of a beautiful Charitable foundation trying to bring technology into orphanages and thereby empower the less privileged with it. Hence, Saturday trainings at various orphanages is a thing.

I am not active in church but I have an unhealthy obsession with biblical principles and growing as a Christian, so half my time I also spend inside my mind, trying to understand all things and asking “un-Christian-like” questions to Eledumare – God.

I try to catch up with learning the violin, I have to take a professional course, get my project on track, and I need to create time to read more blah, blah, blah…

So yeah, in my head, this are my very good excuses for not writing consistency (i.e.: Every Monday, Wednesday and Friday).

But when I really thought about it, I realized it wasn’t fully about the time, it was more about lessons and Inspirations.

I have always imagined I would be someone anybody would look up to and believe that his/her dreams are possible. Something close to a source of inspiration. This being partly one of the reasons why I decided to start a blog.

To share my once-in-a-while REAL life lessons and experiences in form of inspiration, but I haven’t really been able to do that because in…well…okay in simple…you know…Erhmmm…should I talk…Okay…lemme say it…Wait should I say it…Oh No!… In simple words…I FELT LIKE A FRAUD.

Meaning, I didn’t feel like I have a right to inspire other people if I haven’t got my own life or crap together. I realized I had more of struggles than Inspirations or lessons and I only have a right to open my big mouth to talk when my struggles are gone and I have it all together.

Which ended up been a BULLSHIT feeling.

Why you will want to preach more about your struggles.
It was a bullshit feeling.

Because then I felt even worse and anxious too quickly, I was in a race to figure life out and fast, it was like a meaningless race against myself and time. I couldn’t write i.e.: blog as much because I always felt like something was incomplete about the blog, something was missing.

And that was the inspiration part, the lessons I wanted to share.

In as much as I loved sharing jokes or learning to write to make people laugh… that Inspiration aspect completes me. I am a hard-paced lover of lessons and Inspiration.

As you have figured by now, my writing this now means I have decided to say screw it to getting my life back together it ain’t my job, only the choices I make are, I have decided to say screw it to that bullshit feeling, screw it!

Because the truth is that you don’t grow all at once, it is a process and somethings are added benefits to making this process faster, beautiful and interesting. Like sharing the journey.

Also writing about your struggles because you are aware of it and someone out there might just have the best advice, or someone outside might feel less alone about his/her own struggles or someone out there might even feel Inspired by it.

DID YOU KNOW?

Oprah Winfrey’s said her greatest therapy was her talk show.

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This woman was probably facing a lot in her life and still had to sit across from other people and listen to their own struggles, trials and lessons and learn and grow from them. She could have thought “no let me wait till I have no struggles before I can have a talk show” But…

The idea that we have to have a perfect life before we can open our mouth to preach to others is A BIG FAT LIE. We don’t.

The idea that we have to have a perfect life before we can open our mouth to preach to others is A BIG FAT LIE. We don’t. Click To Tweet

The point about preaching isn’t actually about the preacher or the preacher’s life.

It is so we can rub our minds together and learn from each other’s experiences, so that we can grow together. And figure out how to deal with the soup life hands over to us once in a while.

It isn’t so that you can judge my life or base your life on my life. At all.

The only problem that arises is when I preach your faults without being aware that I have those same faults and as you will see in a lot of my posts I include myself- highlight my fault – using the word “I” a lot.

But even if I do, what is fun about preaching or blogging is that you are sharing your words with the whole world and so you are subjected and held responsible to them. So you shouldn’t be scared or feel ashamed when someone walks up to you to remind you of something you don’t practice and you preach.

You should be glad. (Even though once in a while I will still feel scared and ashamed)

And people need to see and understand that you have struggles so it wouldn’t be a thing of surprise to see you not practicing something you preached and condemn you. Instead if they understand your struggles, they will know it isn’t something you have overcome but something you are overcoming.

Because really, if you didn’t believe in what you preached you probably wouldn’t have preached.

This is why I now believe in sharing my struggles as inspiration.

Sharing our struggles can Inspire others too. Click To Tweet

This is why I would rather preach my faults than yours, or preach my faults than the “how-I-got-my-life-back-together” sermon. This is why I would preach my struggles.

Because I strongly believe in figuring it out together, I also believe in sharing what works if they do, but if nothing does, then Hell! I share that too.

We shouldn’t be scared of sharing our struggles, there are lessons in them too.

I shouldn’t feel like I have to get my life back together before I write, or do what I preach before I preach. Nahhhh…

I shouldn’t feel like I have to be helped before I can help someone or be loved before I can love someone.

...I shouldn’t feel like I have to be helped before I can help someone or be loved before I can love someone. Click To Tweet

It goes the other way too.

I don’t feel loved, so I love.

I don’t have help, so I help.

I haven’t got life changing inspirations and motivations, I have got struggles…but I will blog. I will share.

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13 thoughts on “Why you will want to preach more about your struggles.

  1. Wow wow wow
    Been in these shoes a lot and still In sometimes.
    We must fight the front to have it look like we’ve got it together all the time.
    Growth breeds with honesty ✌🏽✌🏽
    Thank you tolu
    Really inspiring

  2. Really really wonderful, I love the part of screwing getting your life back together. Most people try a lot and never really realise they just have to make a choice, which is to come to God as they are. A Really really beautiful piece

  3. Really really wonderful, I love the part of screwing getting your life back together. Most people try a lot and never really realise they just have to make a choice, which is to come to God as they are. A Really really beautiful piece

  4. Weldone Tolu, if you haven’t gotten to the end of the road yet, you share your journey to it. And no one really makes it to the end alive, so no one can authoritatively tell us what a perfect life is. The only way we can teach ourselves hence is to share our journey. You are on the right path. Keep it up!!!😎

  5. For some reason I really just love this post… Tolu my heart goes out to you in this one.
    “We are built through our struggles, so imagine wishing them all away, how will growth come in?”

    😍😍

  6. I can totally relate with all that you said. Awesome piece…Thanks for sharing. No more feeling the need to be perfect before we can inspire others or give advice. We can all learn from our mistakes and grow together.
    Well done Tolu.

  7. I got to learn or rather confirm this fact. We also learn and grow by sharing certain info with people in similar challenges.

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